Yesterday, I read a news highlighting how the life of a person (vinod) changes pre and post marriage. The article describes a couple who had a love marriage against their family members wishes. They were looking for a blissful existence but fate had something else in store for them. The wife turned to be a selfish, rude and an overbearing person. She started abusing his parents and determined to ruin their family. When Vinod went to her parents to discuss about her condition they seemed to have washed away their hands off her. They said that after marriage, she was no longer their responsibility.

Once after an argument, she slapped viond and he slapped her back. So in a fit of anger, she tried to hang herself. At times, she insists that she wants a divorce but soon after she says that she will never leave them nor let them live happily. Vinod is now planning to get some help from counseling and has approached to Kiran Bedi’s Ngo called Navjyoti.

After reading this news, I came with a bunch of questions in my mind. Do Love marriages do not last forever or do they? Or the arranged marriages last long? One more thing to be noticed is the misuse of women’s power as the law listens more to women. Any women can mislead because of the law made for women. The question arises that why is there not any law for men too which can save Vinod from her wife.

I believe that it is not a competition between arranged and love marriage. The matter of fact is that how much the couple loves each other. If the guys love each other they should have mutual understanding. This marriage cannot be said a true love marriage. Either of them would have something lacking which made their lives vain.
Love marriage or arranged marriages both need sharing of thoughts. Love is the connection of heart to heart, which cannot be measured, only felt .The basic difference that in love marriages we marry someone whom we know and understand properly but in arranged marriage we have to develop a sense of love by understanding the nature of person we are married.

Both marriages can only stand longer till both the couple maintains love and understanding between each other.

I believe “Marry someone who loves you not whom you love”.